Anyone who follows my blog knows the huge significance I place on cemeteries. They are the keeper of stories and an important part of our history.
My guest blogger here is Daryn Sibley, a Brisbane man who has been researching his family history for several years. If you know Wynnum, you’ll know Sibley Road. Yes, he’s part of that family. Daryn, like me, is a keen cemetery wanderer. He donates his time to clean graves at the South Brisbane cemetery.
Daryn has since found family at rest at Brisbane’s Toowong Cemetery and this is what he’s doing to give that unmarked grave some attention. These are Daryn’s words:
As a result of the Global Pandemic that started in 2020, most of the world was thrown into ‘Lockdown’ as Borders closed across the world, and across Australia. As we had many restrictions about where we could go, and who we could visit – I decided to visit my deceased Ancestors across Brisbane. We were lucky in Queensland, that we had a lot of freedom so I was able to combine my love of walking and visiting cemeteries – but with a purpose, to visit as many of my great grandparents – and their parents, and in turn learn their stories.
I carried my trusty ‘Grave Cleaning Kit’ with me, wherever I went. A bucket, a spray bottle of water, white vinegar, a soft brush and my trusty rake. As I visited everyone, I cleaned and tidied as I went. In some small way, it felt like I was connecting with them – it was a way of saying ‘thank you’ for the sacrifices they made in order for me to now be living in such an amazing place.
I was disappointed when I discovered some were in unmarked graves. One particular plot at Toowong Cemetery is the final resting place for six of my family – across three generations.
Nearby was another plot with a 4th Generation that I was excited to see – had a headstone and was the grave of my great great grandparents from Denmark.
As restrictions lifted late last year, I was able to take my father and his sister to ‘meet’ the family and inspect the real estate!
My aunt was sad when she saw the plot at Toowong. It looked so barren and neglected. I decided then, that my 2021 project would be to make it a more colourful place to visit.
I found a photo of my great grandmother’s funeral in 1951 and noted the abundance of flowers, this gave me an idea!
I’ve added some soil and potting mixture and have started a garden. I have planted a nice flowering ground cover which has a mix of white and purple flowers. Currently I have only planted one plant, and revived only a small part of the grave. I will monitor for a few weeks and then complete our garden once I know that the plants will grow with limited care and attention.
Once I have it all established – it should be fairly self sufficient and I can go back to my monthly visits to keep an eye on everyone. I would really appreciate any advice from anyone else who has started a cemetery garden! TIPS WELCOME!
(You can email your tips to Lisa@thebottomdrawerbook.com.au or comment on this blog. I’ll then add them to the blog. Thank you. Lisa x)
Lisa Herbert is a death awareness advocate, a cemetery wanderer, journalist, and author of The Bottom Drawer Book: the after death action plan an informative, modern, and quirky workbook and funeral planning guide for those who want to prepare for the inevitable. The third edition is available in Australia for $29.95. For international buyers, The Bottom Drawer eBook is AU$15.99 on Apple Books, Kobo, Booktopia, and Google Books. To purchase, click HERE. Lisa enjoys telling the stories of the dead as they reveal so much about our history.